Self Control~ The ability to control oneself, in particular one's emotions and desires or the expression of them in one's behavior, especially in difficult situations.
Yes, let's talk about self control. Why, because it so often can get in our way. Self control really brings us to choices we make, choices about our behavior. Living life is a choice, I do believe that God has laid out a plan for us, but how we choose to live that life/plan is up to us. Self control brings understanding, compassion, listening, relating, but most important, a connection to self. I have said this many times and it is true, self connection is key to living your best life. Being true to yourself and what you know and believe is connection. What makes you happy or sad, what brings you joy, what and who do you love...All connection!
Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't speak up when you are feeling the need to be heard, or to not express things that you are passionate about. All this can be done in way that lets you be heard, while keeping you in control of your emotions. Too many times when there is no self control we say or do things without thought or understanding. Often times hurting others or not being heard or understood ourselves, which leaves us angry and frustrated. Emotions we have brought on ourselves because we did no exercise self control.
I had a situation a few weeks back one morning while walking my dog, someone said something that did not sit well with me, this was someone I don't even know. I shot back a comment which made the whole thing escalate into something so silly, especially with a stranger!! The remainder of the walk I was so upset with myself for not ignoring the comment, and continuing on with my walk that I so love. I let my emotions get the better of me, fully understanding afterwards how wrong I was to even say anything and engage with this person.
Don't let others twist you in knots, alter your mood or make you question yourself or your motives in anything. This is where the choice comes in, choose yourself, choose the moment you are in and what you are doing, choose to not engage in the things that challenge who you are and what your heart knows. What you know to be true to you and everything you stand for and believe in is all that matters. Especially with strangers!!! Self Control can be a beautiful part of who you are, brining peace and calm to your world.
Mango Cabbage Salad
and salt to taste
1 small res cabbage, shredded. You can use any cabbage, red is more colorful
1-2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
Zest and Juice of 1 lime
1 mango, peeled and diced
1 small bunch of cilantro, chopped
1 tbsp agave nectar, optional
Salt to taste
In a medium sized bowl, combine the cabbage, olive oil, lime zest and juice, and salt. Let stand for about 10-15 minutes.
Add the mango and fresh chopped cilantro. Toss well and taste, add more lime or seasoning if you choose.
*I didn't have cilantro when I made mine in the picture, it tastes better with cilantro. If you aren't a cilantro fan leave it out.